Dear Annie: Our son married into a large family.
His wife’s sister was recently married. We did not receive an invitation, and no explanation was given. We were disappointed not to be included. However, it wasn’t until we saw post-wedding pictures of our 2-year-old granddaughter -- who served as the flower girl -- that we realized that we are not considered family.
He is our only child, and she is our only grandchild.
How do we handle our hurt feelings going forward? -- The Sad Out-Laws
Dear Sad Out-Laws: That is certainly hurtful, but before you make assumptions, consider the fact that it was your daughter-in-law’s sister and her new husband who made the guest list -- not your son and his wife.
Do you have a close relationship with them?
If so, share your feelings of exclusion.
But if not, focus your energy on the relationships that mean most to you -- your son, his wife and your granddaughter.
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